Your Everything-to-Know Guide to Changing Your Soulmate

There are tons of propositions out there about soul mates. Some people believe you have just one, others believe you can have multiple soul mates (romantic or not), and also there are those who prefer the term" binary honey" which is analogous to a soul mate, but not exactly the same thing.

Anyhow of what you believe though, you may be allowing exactly what I’m allowing Uhhh hello? Where art thou, soul mate???

Now before you hit me with the cliché "when you know, you know," I feel it's not possible to literally plan the time and date to meet your match. But the way I see it, you do have two options: You can sit back, relax, and leave it up to fate, or you can be visionary and manifest that shit yourself.

Be yourself (but actually).

FYI The whole point of a soul mate is that they are someone who's meant to love you for you, so how are you supposed to find them if you’re not being yourself? Relationship expert Jasbina Ahluwalia, author of corners Match by Jasbina, advises “Be you unabashedly. Own who you are. However, empower yourself to ameliorate that part, If you are not proud of any part of you. However, your soul mate will as well, If you love you.”

Don’t seek perfection.

Still, you’ll presumably miss out on the person you’re meant to be with, If you keep a strict vision in your head of what your soulmate should be like. “Your soul mate is generally not who you’ve envisaged, but a reality of love that co-opts a body that glasses all of your defects in a way that makes you love yourself more,” says sexologist Frenchie Davis, host of Libido Talk. “You’ll find your soul mate in what you consider your excesses. It'll be the person that admires what you’re hysterical to love about yourself.”

Take it slow

"When it comes to changing your soul mate, flash back that you can not rush effects," says courting and relationship expert Laura Bilotta." It may take a while, but when the timing is right, everything will align,” she says.

Still, like, the most intolerant person ever however. Take some time to work on yourself, suppose about what you are looking for and what will make you happy. And if the hunt for 'the bone' is getting exhausting, do not be hysterical to take a step back until you are ready to get back into the courting game so that you can put yourself completely into it. You need to enjoy the lift and trust that your soulmate will come on when you are ready for them.

Figure yourself out.

Dating trainer Stef Safran advises you to "invest in all corridor of your life". This can look like laboriously engaging in tone care, working out, investing in your interests tête-à-tête, etc. This way, you can learn further about yourself to find the type of person who would fit stylish for you.

When you put yourself out there, flash back "It's okay to have a series of bad dates, no dates, or indeed taking a courting hiatus,” Safran says. “It's okay to ask for advice and it's also okay not to accept all the advice you admit. Everyone needs to understand that failure is part of how you succeed and that there's nothing wrong with being single and looking.”

Don't settle.

Sure, it’s important to be understanding and accepting of other people's excrescences, but a soul mate is supposed to be your. Grand love is meaning you can not rush or force this kind of feeling with any arbitrary person you match with on Tinder.

Certified marriage and family therapist MoeA. Brown says “I encourage anyone who wants to meet their soulmate to do one simple thing: Stand in the glass and get to know who you're privately. Who you're in your loftiest form is the exact energy hand you're looking for."

Look for someone who accepts you for who you are.

You can put trouble in from your end, but if the other person doesn’t repay, not much can be achieved. “Find someone who honors and accepts you as you are, strives to understand you and your perspective and passions, and is willing to work through your differences with respect and concession,” says relationship expert and author of First Comes Us The Busy Couple's companion to Lasting Love Anita Chlipala.

“Find someone with a commitment to commitment and who's willing to do the work to make the relationship work. A soulmate relationship doesn’t just magically live – it is designedly created,” she says.

Put in the work.

And eventually, once you've actually put in the work toward changing your soul mate, it's time to put trouble into maintaining that relationship. “Connections thrive when you invest in understanding one another’s requirements, while also admitting that one person can not fulfill all of your requirements — physically, socially, virtually, or sexually, says Jess O’Reilly, PhD.

“Getting soul mates involves open communication that's ongoing and minimizes judgment. You don’t have to have everything in common to become soul mates, but if you’re both willing to put in an analogous quantum of trouble (time, communication, broadening of comfort zones) to make it work, you might find that this facilitates the process of getting soul mates.”